Relationships are a beautiful journey we embark on with the joy of experiencing something new. But sometimes along the way we start to miss out on all the fun and joy in it . Somehow we start focusing more on things that actually corrode our judgement and spoil the beauty of the relationship.
#1. I wish i had communicated more.
In the beginning this aspect is great. Y'all call each other a couple of times a day and text each other every second of the hour and all that, but as time passes and the excitement of the new relationship dwindles and then the real task begins..... He didn't call yesterday or she didn't text this morning ...who should text first now ?? why am I the one who calls most of the times these days?
Quick advice? Dont let yourself have regrets later on, make all the effort you can now.
Resolution : I'll make more effort to communicate.
#2. I wish I had trusted more.
I know what you're thinking... Trust is always so emphasized when it comes to relationships. I mean with just one quick Google Search and you'll come up with a million reasons why it's so important in a relationship. Well I'm gonna tell you now it's not over hyped. It's one of the most important part of any relationship. If you don't trust your partner you'll keep having doubts that may eventually spell doom for the relationship....little things that shouldn't have caused a fight that you could have talked over becomes such a big issue...the woman you saw him talking to the other day who was actually just a colleague or the night she came back late that later turned out to be because she was stuck in traffic...
Quick advice? Trust more, there may actually be a good explanation to it.
Resolution : learn to trust more .
#3. I wish I didn't over think so much.
On the surface over thinking may not sound so bad -- thinking is good, right? But then all the meaningless things that should have just been overlooked is given endless thoughts in your head -- the result? You end up creating problems that were not there in the first place because you spent so much time thinking about everything that could go wrong. If only you hadn't made such a mountain out of a molehill when he told you that they was nothing still between him and his ex. if only you didn't spend the next few days thinking of all the negative outcomes that might have happened..
Quick advice? Stop focusing so much energy on all the things that might go wrong in the relationship.
Resolution : Avoid over thinking .
#4. I wish I didn't jump to conclusions.
Give people the benefit of the doubt especially when you don't have all the facts. Jumping to conclusions never helped anybody Infact it can actually be very damaging in relationships--in the end all it does is cause you to make impulse decisions that you might just regret in the future.
Quick advice? The next time you catch yourself jumping to conclusions in any situation pause and think clearly about the things you see (or think you see)
Resolution : Do not jump to conclusions.
#5. I wish I listened more.
Listening is always a virtue we all could use more of. Most of the time you miss the little things that seemed unimportant then, but might actually have been a big deal to your partner because you were simply too distracted. You were either not listening or you were always interrupting them or worst still always giving unsolicited advice
Quick advice? Listening is key to good communication, listen more.
Resolution : learn to listen more.
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