When it comes to matters of the heart, there are people who we associate with some bittersweet memories that no matter how hard we try to erase, we will always remember. In fact, they will always occupy a small (if not huge) part of us. It remains an undisputed fact, if I dare say so. Even when we are old in our fifties, with graying hair, we will recall some past relationships as we reminisce about our innocent teens, insecure twenties and defining early thirties.
I believe that as women who are unapologetically gifted with the ability to randomly recall facts, a part of our beautiful brains consciously or unconsciously categorizes our exes according to their significance in our lives. We (or at least majority of us) rank them basing on the amount of pain they rewarded us with, the span of time we invested in them, and if they still matter to date. Sometimes, crushes sneak in to this debate because there are those whose memories of them still bother us, even though nothing actually happened but we were left to get over them and listen to sad songs about unrequited love in the process. At least half of the guys belong to any of the following groups but in no particular order:
1.The first love
It is self explanatory. You met when both of you were young and were trying to figure out what it means to care for someone deeply. It is the kind of love that is innocent and because of that, it remains sacred.
2.The asshole
You spotted red flags before you could even give him your number. His sense of style, skinny jeans and visible tattoos and how comfortable he was with dropping slang in serious conversations should have had you turning the other way. You probably met in your early or mid twenties when you thought you needed a little fun in your boring life and the bad boy seemed to be the answer to your little mystery. You moved on when you realized you deserved someone who would treat you with more respect.
3. The serial player
He was everything you wanted in a guy at first; successful, fun, handsome, treated the waiter with respect and always knew what to say. He made you feel special and needless to say, he also made three other women feel exactly the same way.
4.The gentleman who was right let you go
You moved in with him. A nice guy who would have gotten on one knee but somehow things didn’t work out. It reached a point where you stopped looking at the same picture. Or one of you relocated and the long distance became tricky. It was long before you were able to let another person in.
5. The ‘what if’ guy
You have had a crush on him since high school but your friends never fail to remind you that he is bad news. They are right. You have nothing in common and it’s obvious you wouldn’t have worked out.He gave you missed signals and honestly, that’s code for ‘commitment phobic’ or even better, ‘emotionally unavailable’. However, you still wonder up to date if you were a coward not to give him a chance, get your heart broken and get over with. And if he happened to be the Mr. Wrong who needed to be taught a thing or two to make him right, live happily ever after.
6.The platonic friend
He is one of your closest friends who at one point, you had a massive crush on. He acted like he was deliberately not picking on any of the clues you tried to hint that your feelings ran deeper than just friendship. You finally accepted that he did not like you that way.
7. The extremely successful guy
You met when you were old enough to correctly interpret a man’s intentions but too young to be involved in something serious like a life time commitment so you let him go. Well, karma is a bitch because not long after, his company began making headlines in the business section of your daily newspaper.
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